It’s hard for me to believe that I’ve been single for five years. In some ways, it seems like just yesterday that I moved out of my marital home, and in others, I can’t even remember what my old, married life was like.
So what’s it like after five years single? It’s taken me that much time to come to the realization that my life is my own. I don’t have to make decisions with anyone else in mind now. It’s my turn. I’m sure I could have figured that out about four years ago, but I’m a slow learner. I’ve been trying to get a grip on where I want to go and what I want to do for my remaining years, but, until a few short months ago, I hadn’t allowed myself to think solo. That changed during the pandemic.
Forced to spend a lot of time alone, really alone, changed how I’m viewing things moving forward. I can’t travel to spend time with my children. I can’t hang my happiness on our time together, because it may be awhile before that luxury returns.
And, and this is a big one, I may be single for the rest of my life. I was so used to being part of a couple that I honestly didn’t think of myself as single until recently. I am more settled in that fact now. Thank you pandemic. If that’s the case, what will make me happy? How will I find happiness? And, where?
The next five years are going to bring the biggest changes to my life, even bigger than the past five. I’m certain of that. I have not been this excited about my life for some time. There are no concrete options on the horizon, but I can feel it like never before. Hope you will stick with me on this voyage.
Hi Paula,
Glad to have found your site and blog. I originally found you on Sixty and Me. I like your story and your gutsy way of saying what you need to say. I am working on putting my own life back together after an “explosion” and you are yet another piece to the puzzle that shows me the “it’s possible picture” ~ Thank You! I did read somewhere that there are groups that you offer a paid membership to – but I didn’t see where to connect on your site. (I’m sure it was an oversight on my part). All the very best of continued success to you!! I don’t even know you but feel compelled to say “I’m proud of you Sweetie Pie!”. Maybe one day we’ll connect! Keep up the good work and continued happiness to you & Red!
Michele, I am so glad you found the site. I took a little break and I’m back with a new series on making your mission match your vision. I am figuring out that I need to make changes to the way I am living in order to get where I want to be. Hope you will follow along.
The steam seems out of this site.
Polly, I am so sorry you feel that way. Actually, it’s the opposite. During the summer months I was feeling like I had said it all about life as a single woman over sixty. Maybe it was the pandemic. I did feel uninspired, you are right about that. So, I took a little break. I had to feel like I had something to say. And I do. I hope you will follow the series, “Does Your Mission Match Your Vision?” It offers a fresh take on what’s next for me and suggests that if you are not living in a way that will move you forward toward your dream life, make some changes. Thank you for your comment.