Do you ever feel invisible?  Here’s a story: a friend had to hire a private detective and a woman who was 50+ was recommended.  When she asked why this former police officer was a good detective, the answer was, “No one who walks into a bar notices a woman who is over 50.”  Ouch!

Let’s face it, we all feel invisible from time to time but that statement has stuck with me for years. It was depressing to think about.  How could I continue to feel good about myself when I felt unnoticed every time I walked into a room full of strangers.  But here is what I find to be true: if you carry yourself as if you are invisible, you will be.  And, if you don’t, you won’t.

Being worthy of notice isn’t about how young or how beautiful you are.  Being noticed is as much in your head as it is about others around you.  If you chose to dress like no one should look at you, they won’t.  If you chose to carry yourself as if there isn’t anything special about you, there isn’t.  For years I felt like I was nothing because I was with a man who made me feel that way and I let him.  In the last year, however, I have really come back to my true self and I never feel invisible.

When I walk into a room I want to be noticed, not passed over.  I want to look like a confident woman.  I want people to see me coming in and say, “Here comes the fun!”  And, now I think I do.  I am and want t always be, relevant.  When you exude liveliness others feel it and it rubs off on them. They have no choice but to notice you.

So, if you are not showing up to your life as a woman who deserves to be seen, who deserves to be noticed, and you want to change that, you know what to do.  Make s change.  Tell yourself how beautiful you are, how much fun it is to be with you and you will find that others begin to feel the same.

I dare someone not to notice me in a bar.  Say it to yourself and soon you will believe it and others will too.