These are what I used to call “Glamour Don’ts.” They are photos that one would not want to represent them to the world. However, men use them all the time on dating sites and I just don’t get it. Is it that there are just so many women for each available man that they can throw anything they want up and get hundreds of right swipes?
I am not very familiar with online dating; haven’t done it much, but I have looked at the sites in order ease myself back into the game. First, the lack of men in my particular demo was apparent right away. Not a lot from which to select. If in his bio, a man writes that he is breathing on his own, he is one of the most popular men and is snatched up immediately. Regardless, men, if you are going to play the game, make it a game. Get good at it and use some photos that show you in a way that would make you proud. I’m here to help. Use this as a guide ladies and gentlemen. I would not be surprised to see this photo below in a man’s dating bio.
- Anything that is blurry. Why do men post out of focus photos? Can’t see? Just take another one. Unless you saving “film” or are trying to hide your identity because you are in the witness protection program, post a better photograph.
- The picture that you took of yourself in your bathroom. Standing in front of your bathroom mirror, taking a selfie never ends well. It just doesn’t. The focus is unclear, you are looking into the camera which is often down around the belt and the flash shows up in the photo. Men, you appear to be looking at your package. I have never seen one man smiling when he has posted a bathroom selfie. The men are working too hard to smile when they take the shot.
- I do not want to see a photo of your motorcycle. I know what a motorcycle looks like.
- I do not want to see a photo of you in the seventies. It makes it clear that you peaked early.
- If you are taking a selfie, reclining in your Barco-lounger tells me that most of your time is spent in that position in front of the TV. It may be true, but don’t show all of your cards before the game even starts.
- And please, please, please do not post a photo of your abs. I love abs as much as the next girl, but when I see that photo I think, “well, my tummy doesn’t look like that so I am not going near that guy.” You price yourself out of the market, so to speak.
Guys, all we want to see is a nice man who is taking the time to show himself in a positive light to meet a nice woman. Put in a little effort. Show us your best side. Honestly, we will do the rest for you if you just show that you care about the process.
I met my man on Zoosk. I used current pics, even though a little self conscious. We met after only a brief conversation of two days. Turned out he lived round the corner from me and we’d met seventeen years earlier. Oh and like a fine wine………simply gorgeous.
Congrats to you!
I met a few men in their late 50’s to 70 and it’s unbelievable that they are trying so hard to act like they are in their 20’s. Do they not know that you don’t try to touch a woman’s chest or talk about subjects like dominatrix upon your first meeting. I want someone in my life, but they must be respectful of ladies. I don’t know how to date anymore. I’m 62 and very easy to converse with and outgoing. Afraid I’ll always be alone.
Theresa, I can tell you that there are good men out there, but they are not easy to find. If you give up you’ll never know! Good luck.